To Honor My Soul, I Will Make Less Contact With These People
For a long time, I didn’t realize that I had been letting people get to me. You see, I’m the kind of person who is emotionally giving: I’m responsive, rather warm, and I know almost no limits when it comes to interacting with another person. I could spend hours attending to you, as long as you treat me with respect.
What I didn’t realize is that people being nice to me isn’t enough of a guarantee that I won’t be harmed in the process. Here’s what I mean:
People may interact decently with us — and even genuinely at that — but by virtue of how they perceive us, they inevitably wound our spirits. In other words, their limited ability or willingness to embrace the entirety of what makes us us deprives us of our precious spirit energy that is oh-so fragile.
Dedicating your time and energy into interacting with such people (who mean no harm mostly) encourages you to lose yourself gradually, also joining in with them as you see yourself as one-dimensional, made for the purpose of whatever their intentions of engaging with you are.
I understand this is quite a radical view. After all, it is not our duty to attend to the complexity that a human being is, and it is not wrong for people to not want to deal with the whole of you.
However, I insist that those of us who are starry-eyed are more susceptible to the energies and viewpoints of others, unconsciously internalizing them, putting ourselves at the mercy of what they want us to be for them; and of course, we don’t mind!
Though if you’re serious about honoring your soul, you have to be what some people would call… selfish. Why? Because although it is not wrong for people to not want to deal with the whole of you, it is wrong for you to lose the whole of you to others.
The following are the kinds of people I will try my best to make less contact with:
a) Those who view me one-dimensionally (sees me as merely academically-inclined, intellectual; empathetic, etc). I have feelings too. I can cry. I need time and space. I do not know everything. I do not necessarily have those ambitions you think I have.
b) Those who would most likely consider me as unattractive even if they haven’t yet said it because of my long history of being bullied, rejected, and being seen as different (I no longer want to wound my soul)
c) Those who see me as all good– because then they secretly have high expectations of me to be a certain way, which is not just self-serving but creepy because the only reason I’m all good is so they can use me for some agenda they have in mind
Point is, I am a whole human being so do capture what I am when you’re with me in a moment. I’m sure you’d want the same from me too.
Who do you think you might need to make less contact with in order to safeguard your soul?